Seven Things Every Christian Man Needs From His Wife

Chances are that most women are still clueless about what their husbands really need. More than a dozen magazine articles are written each month on the subject, and books by the tens of thousands. Well, we’ve talked to some men and found that most of them want the same things
that women want, though the wording may be different between the sexes. Wives, pay attention to this list, but take your biggest cue from how he treats you. Christian men are not much different from Christian women. Remember what YOU want, and know that your man is not much different.

7. PAY ATTENTION TO APPEARANCE

Though appearance is important in any relationship, men did not rate that as highly as
other things on their list. Yes, they want you to look good ladies, but there are other things they
want more. Our advice: Pay attention to your appearance and make sure to practice great hygiene. Go that extra mile to keep your hair nice and neat. Put on some make-up, if that’s what your husband likes to see. It takes only an extra minute, but it brings him hours of joy as he looks at you. (Song of Solomon 4:1-7)


6. STOP ASKING HIM WHAT’S WRONG ALL THE TIME

Men, just like women, like to have time to think and sort through their days and emotions. A man
wants his home to be like his own private castle. Even if he lives in a shoebox, he wants to have
moments of peace. He doesn’t want to be nagged and questioned every time he’s quiet about what
may bother him. That definitely bothers him. Give him some space and when he’s ready, he will
come to you and tell you about any issues that he has. Most of the men surveyed said that many
times they just need time to wind down.

5. HE LOVES TO HEAR YOU PRAY

Every man surveyed reported that they love to hear their wives pray for them and
the family. Men find strength in prayer. Men with praying wives reported that their days went
much better when their wives prayed for them. Think he doesn’t want you mentioning prayer
to him? Think again. Three out of every five men surveyed said they may skip weeks in prayer
if they didn’t have a wife that “loved them enough to remind them to pray.”

4. BE SECURE IN HIM AND ACT LIKE IT, ESPECIALLY AT CHURCH

Nearly every man surveyed, 89%, said they hate when their wives act in an overprotective
manner, hovering over them. He wants his wife to know that he loves her; and he wants to
know also, that she trusts him. Yes, infidelity is a big deal everywhere, the church not being an
exception to the rule, though it should be. Nevertheless, real Christian men are out there and
they are begging their wives to trust them, and to act like they trust them - especially while at
church.

3. HE IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD SO LET HIM DO IT

Men despise controlling, domineering traits in women. They want women who are independent
and strong, but loving, teachable, gentle and humble. They don’t mind hearing advice so long as
it’s advice and not a command. Please respect your husbands, ladies.

2. SEX IS IMPORTANT TO HIM

Of the men surveyed, 93% said that their sex lives seemed to dwindle as salvation
and church came on the scene. While Jesus is indeed the Christian’s first love, Jesus still wants
us to actively participate in loving our mates! Your hubby loves to hear you pray and he wants
to be at church with you, but he also wants you to demonstrate that you still want him. One
man reported, “She acts as if sex is a sin. She rarely wants to be touched anymore. That is so
hard for me.” Ladies, he is your husband, and sex with him is a God ordained gift to the both
of you. Enjoy it!

1. DON’T USE THE BIBLE TO MAKE HIM FEEL

Men, like women, absolutely hate being preached to for selfish benefit. Avoid this
pitfall at all costs. God is able to convict the hearts of men. Yes, as a wife, it is your job to warn
him if something is wrong, but you cannot stand in judgment of him, nor should you try to.
Every man surveyed, 130, said they wanted a wife to be bold enough to tell them when they
are wrong; but by the same token, all 130 of them also said they hated feeling judged and
criticized by their wives. Take his cues and know that how you say what you say is almost
always the issue. (Proverbs 15:1)